{"id":11263,"date":"2022-09-11T12:26:37","date_gmt":"2022-09-11T17:26:37","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/divorceanswers.com\/?p=11263"},"modified":"2022-09-11T12:26:38","modified_gmt":"2022-09-11T17:26:38","slug":"do-men-regret-divorce","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/divorceanswers.com\/do-men-regret-divorce\/","title":{"rendered":"Do Men Regret Divorce?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

It may come as a surprise, but some men regret getting divorced. Statistically speaking, 1 in 4 regrets divorcing their ex-wives. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Many men regret divorce and wish they could go back in time. However, this regret is a surprise since most men tend to bottle up their feelings. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Generally, society expects men to have a tough exterior. Therefore, they are encouraged not to show their emotions. As a result, some men don't feel they can talk about their feelings due to societal stereotypes. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, more often than not, men feel awful after getting divorced. In this article, we will examine why they regret it. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

How Does Divorce Impact Men?   <\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Divorce is hard on both parties, but many assume that it's harder on women. However, men struggle a great deal after divorce. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Unfortunately, this struggle consists of mental and emotional struggles, primarily when men don't deal with their emotions healthily. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

They Lose Their Identity <\/h3>\n\n\n\n

If you're married, that becomes a significant part of your identity for a long time. You see yourself as a spouse to that person and essentially a teammate. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Men view themselves as husbands and providers for their families. This shift in identity is significant and affects how men view themselves once the marriage dissolves.   <\/p>\n\n\n\n

They don't see themselves as a partner, and it also hugely impacts their ego. This negative impact and skewing of identity especially happen if a man puts his entire self-worth into his spouse and marriage. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Some men also resort to engaging in activities that may boost their self-esteem, but it's unfortunately temporary. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Men Don't Properly Grieve. <\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Going through a divorce is an agonizing thing to deal with. It causes all sorts of upsets for both people involved. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, women tend to understand this more than men. Men don't always process their grief<\/a>, largely due to cultural expectations that men remain stoic, which leads to even more emotional turmoil. This is partially why male suicide and homelessness rates are higher than they are for women.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Men keep their emotions inside and don't try to seek therapy<\/a> or counseling. This bottling up of emotions can easily lead to anxiety and depression. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Studies show that men are six times<\/a> more likely to experience depression after a divorce. This depression happens due to the sheer feelings of uncertainty and the stress of ending things with a spouse. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Men Feel the Need to Rush into a New Relationship <\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Unfortunately, men will rush into a new relationship soon after divorce. Although this may appear as them being cold and careless, it's anything but. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Men do this to try and forget the fact they are divorced. Men don't always grieve and deal with their emotions appropriately during this time. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

So, the easiest way to get past this is to get into something new and distract themselves. Albeit highly unhealthy, it's very common among men who get divorced. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

They Miss Their Kids   <\/h3>\n\n\n\n

It's no surprise that an adamant part of divorce for men is their kids. Most of the time, judges grant custody to the mother leaving men with little to no time with their children. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the contrary, since they live with their mother, she will have the most time with them each day. This new change can bring about a lot of emotions for men. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Loneliness and sadness can especially follow suit. Divorced men often simply want their families back together and happy again. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Men Experience a Decline in Health<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

After a divorce, men experience a decline in their mental and\/or physical health. Health problems usually occur as a direct result of stress.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This stress occurs from everything that comes from divorce. For example, handling finances, losing their identity, starting anew, being alone, etc.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n

This quickly leads to men finding unhealthy coping methods, such as using drugs and alcohol. Another aftermath of divorce for men is the consequence of dependency.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A wife will typically promote healthy behaviors for their husband. This promotion of healthy behaviors and habits can help throughout the marriage. However, it can cause a lot of harm in the end for a man. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ultimately, it causes them to become dependent on their wife, and when they divorce, they are left to figure things out alone. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

What Do Men Regret About Divorce? <\/h2>\n\n\n\n

There are several things men regret about divorce; some may surprise you. These things come as a surprise because men usually act as if they are entirely okay during this life-changing process. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, men do care and tend to put their emotions on the back burner. Unlike women who are open about the struggles of divorce, men seemingly move on without any regrets.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Here are some of the reasons a man regrets divorce:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

He Doesn't Like the New Relationship.  <\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Since men tend to rush into something new after a divorce, things may be fun initially. However, things aren\u2019t what they may seem, and fun can\u2019t last forever.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This can be due to the new person not turning out to be who a man thinks. It also happens because the thrill simply wears off quickly after a few months in. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

He Worries About His Kids <\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Men, unfortunately, deal with the potential consequence<\/a> of not seeing their kids very often after a marriage has dissolved. Studies show<\/a> that kids see noncustodial parents either once a month or talk to them once a month.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n

This means if the ex-wife wins custody, a man could potentially lose access to their kids depending on what's agreed upon in court. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

This kind of situation in itself can lead to massive amounts of stress and regret the way things turned out.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Read More:<\/strong> Understanding The Psychological Effects of Divorce on Children<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

He Realizes He Still Has Feelings for His Ex-Wife<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Studies show that 6% of couples <\/a>who divorce get married again. These findings aren't very surprising since between 10% and 15%<\/a> of couples who separate reconcile.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When two people get married, there's a deep connection that is very hard to break. Even after a divorce happens, those feelings often remain. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

So a man might regret his divorce if he still has feelings for his ex-wife. Sometimes, it's hard for a man to simply let go of all the memories and the family unit they have built with the once love of their life.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n

They Face Financial Hardship <\/h3>\n\n\n\n

According to research, men will face a 10%-40% decrease in finances after a divorce. Although some men are fine afterward, a significant majority will have some financial stress.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This is a massive regret for men, especially since finances<\/a> are one of the leading causes of divorce. The stress and lack of money can take a toll on mental health in any situation. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

For men, as previously stated, this can be a driver for them to engage in risky behavior. This can include alcohol, drugs, or just getting into unhealthy relationships.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Read More:<\/strong> 13 Reasons Why Divorce Is So Expensive<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tips on How Men Can Properly Cope After Divorce <\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Men must be proactive with their well-being after divorce. Taking the time to work through emotions is imperative, but it's also necessary to prepare for the future.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n