{"id":1075,"date":"2021-08-20T14:01:52","date_gmt":"2021-08-20T18:01:52","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/divorceanswers.com\/?p=1075"},"modified":"2022-07-28T09:50:34","modified_gmt":"2022-07-28T14:50:34","slug":"married-to-narcissist","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/divorceanswers.com\/married-to-narcissist\/","title":{"rendered":"HELP! I Think I’m Married To A Narcissist? 55 Warning Signs To Lookout For"},"content":{"rendered":"\n
Warning Signs You Married a Narcissist<\/a> | You ARE Married To a Narcissist<\/a> | FAQs<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n They say that “to be wed is to know bliss<\/em>“, right?<\/p>\n\n\n\n But what happens if you find yourself married to a narcissist?<\/p>\n\n\n\n You may be one of those people who found themselves unlucky in love\u2014and chained to a narcissist in unholy matrimony.<\/p>\n\n\n\n There are many different ways to spot a narcissist and one of their telltales signs is… they will eventually reveal their true colors.<\/p>\n\n\n\n And when that happens, it may be too late and you will have to face the tough decision of either dealing with them as-is (because they won't change) or divorcing your narcissist spouse<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n If your partners behavior is under suspicion for narcissistic patterns, be on the lookout for these 55 warning signs you married a narcissist..<\/p>\n\n\n\n One of the top ways to spot a narcissist is to look for the grandiose persona. In a narcissist\u2019s mind, they are better, smarter, more powerful and more deserving than everyone around them\u2014including you. They waste no time in aiming to impress anyone\u2019s path they cross.<\/p>\n\n\n\n After all the marital bliss has settled and you move on in your lives as wedded partners, you may realize a shift. It may not happen immediately, but soon, you will begin to feel isolated.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Your partner will begin to isolate you from your friends and family. This will have devastating consequences on your mental health. They are incredible manipulators that can have you guessing why you were even friends to begin with.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Your narcissistic spouse will inevitably begin criticizing every move you make. They take a sick pleasure and causing you to second guess yourself and breed self-doubt. This is a control and manipulating mechanism that puts them in the driver\u2019s seat of your life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n How disturbing is it to have your spouse judge how you raise your children? Narcissists will hit below the belt and even use the children to their leverage in arguments. Some narcissistic spouses may use their work habits as a way to negate taking care of the children as well.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Gaslighting and narcissists go hand in hand. Things like \u201cOh stop, you\u2019re being paranoid\u201d and \u201cI never said that!\u201d when you know they did. Gaslighting is when they have you questioning your own sanity and reality<\/a>. This is very dangerous and the ultimate emotional abuse.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Narcissists seek an army in order to destroy. They will use your family in attempts to turn them against you. They can pass it off as \u201cconfiding\u201d in them as they complain about you to get the attention off of themselves. The mission? Get to them before you do.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Who would want<\/em> to make someone feel jealous? Narcissists. They get off on strategically putting you in situations to light up your jealousy flares. This strokes their egos and stokes your insecurities\u2014a dangerous combination.<\/p>\n\n\n\n To sweep you off your feet, the narcissist will pull out all the stops to woo you. After you\u2019re married? Things begin to shift\u2014dramatically. They no longer feel the need to woo you as you are now their \u2018property\u2019. Compliments may only come out when you are in front of others when the \u2018show\u2019 goes on.<\/p>\n\n\n\n If you had children with a narcissist, odds are you have had the conversation about time with the children versus time with your spouse. Narcissistic spouses argue that your attention need be more on them and not the children. They can become resentful of the attention they \u2018lose\u2019 to your child. This can also be the other way around where the narcissist focuses solely on the baby\u2014and not you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Narcissists love<\/em> to dwell on how fantastic they see themselves (even if it is just to combat the crippling sense of insecurity). They will exaggerate their self-importance and ensure you and everyone else knows how amazing they are.<\/p>\n\n\n\n A narcissist loves the finer things in life\u2014and for everyone to see that they have them. Outward image means a great deal to them and they will try to control how others see them. Their inner reality is shadowed by their need for external validation and attention.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Many narcissists turn to social media to engage their external validation needs. They aim to get as many likes, comments and follows as possible to really flex those popularity wings. This promotion of self weens out their shortcomings in their own minds.<\/p>\n\n\nNarcissist Spouse Warning Signs<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
1. Grandiose Persona<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
2. You begin to feel isolated<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
3. You Are Criticized<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
4. They Even Criticize Your Childrearing<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
5. Gaslighting Galore<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
6. They Use Your Family Against You<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
7. They Love Your Jealousy<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
8. From Charm to Alarm<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
9. Jealous of the Children<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
10. Their Own Favorite Story<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
11. Never Settles for Less than the Best<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
12. Social Media Star<\/h3>\n\n\n\n